Rest and Relaxation Wellness

Resting is hard for me.  There is always so much to do.  I feel lazy by not working on my to do list.

Do you take time to rest?
Do you take time to rest?

However, God wants us to rest.  He calls for us to rest.

We are told that God created the world in six days and on the seventh day He rested.

God tells us to “Keep the Sabbath day holy.”

Times have changed over the last fifty years, but not that long ago people went for rides in the country after church on Sunday or sat on the front porch and visited with family.  Even task such as cooking and ironing were frowned upon.

Life has definitely changed from the go, go, go world we live in today where life is nonstop and when we’re not working, running the kids everywhere, shopping, or any other numerous task we are connected via social media, cell phones, iPads and numerous other devices.

This includes:

We all need to take time to rest and relax
We all need to take time to rest and relax
  • Getting enough sleep
  • Taking it easy
  • Not over doing
  • Having time to enjoy pursuits we enjoy
  • Savoring the moment
  • Spending time with family
  • Enjoying a hobby
  • Prayer and Meditation
  • Reading a good book
  • Disconnecting from social media for a time
  • Enjoying ME time
  • Enjoying a movie, hike, walk, boat ride or any number of other activities we enjoy

 

As you can see rest does not mean just getting the sleep we need, but also taking a deep breath and enjoying other hobbies we enjoy.

What is Occupational Wellness?

Several years ago, I had a job which just the thought of it kept me tied up in knots.  The atmosphere felt toxic to my soul.   Sadly, things did not end well but God used the experience to teach me lessons and move me to where He would have me serve Him.

Occupational Wellness is contributing your unique talents, gifts and skills to be personally rewarding and have meaning in your life.

Some questions to ask yourself are:

Do you enjoy what you do or are you part of the rat race?
Do you enjoy what you do or are you part of the rat race?
  • Do I enjoy work most days?
  • Do I have a manageable workload?
  • Am I doing what I feel God is calling me to do?
  • Can I talk with my boss and co-workers when problems arise?
  • Am I using my gifts, skills and talents?
  • Am I personally being rewarded? {this does not necessarily mean finically}
  • Do I find meaning in what I do?
  • Am I working towards my goals, dreams and ambitions?
  • Am I satisfied?
  • Do I have a work-life balance?
  • Do I feel inspired and challenged?
  • Do I feel good at the end of the day?

 

Some ways to improve occupational wellness include:

Are you preparing for the future and enjoying your calling?
Are you preparing for the future and enjoying your calling?
  • Avoid overworking
  • Find a work-life balance
  • Enjoy what you do
  • Write out your goals and create a plan
  • Increase your skill set and knowledge
  • Talk with a career counselor if you feel stuck
  • Search for the positive benefits

How do you find occupational or career wellness?

What is Environmental Wellness?

Recently I became very sick and discovered it was my environment.  I had to make changes around the house for my health.

Environmental wellness relates to our environment, whether it is our physical home, our job, those we work with, or those in our family.

Environmental Wellness also relates to our planet and how we care for the natural resources on this earth. This means we strive to care for our planet and protect our world.

Some things to take into consideration about our environment:

Do you help care for your environment?
Do you help care for your environment?
  • Am I aware of my surroundings at all time?
  • Am I safe?
  • Do I recycle?
  • Are there any safety hazards?
  • Do I respect nature?
  • Am I respected by others and do I respect others in return?
  • Is my home or job place environmentally safe?
  • Do I walk or bike instead of using a car?

 

What steps do you take for environmental wellness?

What is Intellectual Wellness?

We live in a changing world.  Understanding what is going on and being able to carry on a communication helps us with not only our social and personal relationships, but also increases our creativity and curiosity.

We do not have to be in school to keep learning.  Life is an ongoing lesson and classroom.

An intellectually well person is open to new ideas and understandings and enjoys learning and being mentally stimulated.

Books is one way to increase intellectual wellness
Books is one way to increase intellectual wellness

Some ways to keep learning and increase our intellectual wellness include:

  • Read for both fun and to learn
  • Keep abreast of current events
  • Improve skills for studying
  • Play a musical instrument
  • Learn a foreign language
  • Learn a new craft or hobby
  • Be creative
  • Journal your thoughts and feelings
  • Travel
  • Keep the mind sharp with crossword puzzles and suduko
  • Take a class for fun—online classes and affordable classes are available on sites such as Udemy or YouTube

How do you keep your mind sharp?

What is Relationship Wellness?

We are in all types of relationships, although the first thing that may come to our mind is a romantic relationship.

However, there are relationships we have with all kinds of people:

We have all kinds of relationships with various people in our lives
We have all kinds of relationships with various people in our lives
  • Our spouse
  • Our parents
  • Our siblings
  • Our children
  • Our co-workers
  • Our neighbors
  • Our friends
  • The people at church
  • The people at a club we are part of
  • Friends that share an interest
  • And so forth…

We all want to have a healthy relationship, regardless of what type of relationship that might be.  None of us wants to be around people that drain us or bring the worse out of us.

Some aspects of relationship wellness include:

Relationships are about building a trust and a bond
Relationships are about building a trust and a bond
  • Treating one another with respect
  • Trusting one another
  • Resolving conflicts satisfactorily
  • Supporting one another
  • Clear and open communication
  • Encouraging one another
  • Making healthy decisions
  • Understanding when to say no or back away

 

Is there a relationship in which you struggle with any of these relationship aspects?

Positive Peer Re-Enforcement

I have a resident that is so soft spoken it is almost impossible to understand what she is saying.

Positive reinforcement can yield positive results
Positive reinforcement can yield positive results

In the past when she spoke it was completely undistinguishable.  Even speech therapy had stopped working with her.

However, her roommate is very patient with her.  She coaxes and encourages her to speak in a manner that is kind and caring.

Lately, I’ve noticed that this sweet lady is speaking more distinctly and louder.

It’s amazing what a little encouragement and love can accomplish.

What positive re-enforcements have you seen from peer interaction?

What is Social Wellness?

Being a natural introvert, means it’s more difficult to push myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people or hang out with friends.  For extroverts, it’s much easier to get out and mingle with friends.

Social wellness is the ability we have to interact with the people around us.

How do you get along with others when not online?
How do you get along with others when not online?

This includes:

  • Understanding if we are an introvert or extrovert
  • Communication skills
  • Building meaningful relationships
  • Creating a support system
  • Learning to read people
  • Watching out for people that drain us
  • Blooming where we are planted
  • Stepping out of our comfort zone
  • Respecting yourself and others

 

Where do you shine or struggle with social wellness?

Breaking the Ice with Dementia

I have several patients that most staff and visitors are scared to approach.  This is mainly due to their disability or behavior.

However, I’ve determined to get to know these residents and spend time with them.

So what have I learned? What are some ways to break the ice with dementia patients?

It may take a while to break the ice but it is definitely worth it
It may take a while to break the ice but it is definitely worth it
  • This takes time
  • Slowly, but surely we both warm to one another
  • Touch shows I care
  • Music is a great way to break the ice
  • Even short visits show I care
  • I need to genuinely care
  • Speak with the family to learn about this person and their life
  • Find one thing we can bond over {each person is different but there is something}
  • This takes time
  • I can’t rush the process
  • Don’t give up

How have you broken the ice?

What is Creative Wellness?

We are all creative in some way, although some people are more Intune to their creative side.

Creative wellness is understanding what and how to use our creative side.

Do you embrace your creativity?
Do you embrace your creativity?

This includes:

  • How to be creative
  • Utilizing our creative side
  • Discovering how to learn to be creative
  • Daydreaming, Brainstorming and visualizing
  • Making the most of our creativity
  • Turning our creativity into a hobby
  • Turning our creative hobby into a sideline business
  • To not censor ourselves
  • Do not be too critical
  • To reach for our dreams
  • To collaborate with others

 

What is your greatest struggle with creative wellness?

Power of Touch

I have several residents that are difficult to reach and many people don’t even try to get to know them.  I feel as if they are the ones missing out.

Touch can make a big difference in Alzheimer's
Touch can make a big difference in Alzheimer’s

One way to reach out to a bed bound, hard of hearing or comatose patient is through the power of touch.

  • Just a hand on their arm
  • a squeeze of the hand
  • a hand massage
  • a stroke of their upper arm
  • a pat of their foot

These are all ways the power of touch can work.  It doesn’t have to be for long, but even a minute of this can show you still care and connect you.

What way has the power of touch worked for you?

What is Financial Wellness?

We all must deal with finances, whether they are in good shape or need to get in shape.

Personally, I struggle with paying off my student loan.  This is an issue many adults deal with.

How is your finances?
How is your finances?

Financial wellness is the state of our finances.  This includes:

  • Working towards becoming debt free
  • Paying our bills
  • Learning where to cut costs
  • Preparing and planning for the future
  • Building a nest egg

Where do you struggle with financial wellness?

Alzheimer’s Perception of Situation

We have a resident that is well over 100 years of age.  Although she has dementia, she also has lucid moments.  Recently, I stopped in to visit with her and had a conversation we’d never had before.

Dementia patients often see much more than we think
Dementia patients often see much more than we think

Me: “How are you?”

Her: “I’m sad.”

Me: “Why are you sad?”

Her: “Someone was talking about me.”

Me: “What did they say?”

Her: “I don’t know but I didn’t like it.”

This was a reminder that even when we think an individual with dementia or Alzheimer’s does not know what we are saying, there are times when they do understand.

Even if they do not understand the words they may understand in a number of other ways.

This can include:

Dementia Patients know how you make them feel
Dementia Patients know how you make them feel
  • Tone of voice
  • Touch
  • Look on our face
  • Attitude toward that individual
  • Perception

What ways have you noticed an Alzheimer’s individual is perceptive to their situation?

What is Spiritual Wellness?

My relationship with God is important to me.  However, it’s not always been that way.  I had to go through some very difficult times and discover I had no where else to turn before I rededicated my life to Christ.

How is your relationship with God?
How is your relationship with God?

However, there are still times when life gets in the way and I become so busy that I realize I am neglecting our time together.

Spiritual wellness is “a matter of values and beliefs that provide a purpose in our lives.”  For me, this means a relationship with Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.

For me this means:

  • Discovering how to be quiet and listen
  • Studying Scripture
  • Resting in God and not worrying
  • Praying, Meditating and worshipping
  • Living a life that honors God
  • Showing Forgiveness
  • Being willing to share Christ with others
  • Growing my faith and relationship with Christ

What does spiritual wellness mean to you?

Caregiver Ten Commandments

I came across these Ten Commandments for Caregivers online.  The author is listed as unknown.  However, I felt that it was important to share with you dear readers.

Caregiver Ten Commandments

–Unknown

Ten Commandments for Caregivers
Ten Commandments for Caregivers

I       Thou Shalt not be perfect or even try to be.

II     Thou shalt not try to be all things to all people

III    Thou shalt sometimes leave things undone

IV    Thou shalt not spread thyself too thin

V     Thou shalt learn to say “NO”

VI    Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and thy support network

VII   Thou shalt switch thyself off and do nothing

VIII  Thou shalt not even feel guilty for doing nothing or saying “NO”

XI    Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant and unattractive at times

X     Especially, thou shalt not be thine own worst enemy, but be thine own best friend

 

Which commandement do you struggle with the most?

What is Mental Wellness?

When I was in an abusive relationship my mental wellness was in a very dangerous place.  There was so

Some situations are so intense it is difficult to process it in the mind
Some situations are so intense it is difficult to process it in the mind

much stress and emotional upheaval that my mind had a difficult time processing the rate at which events and situations changed.  This enhanced other disorders such as binge eating, anxiety attacks, and depression.

Since leaving this situation I’ve worked hard to find and maintain mental wellness and am thankful that I am a much stronger person today.  However, that does not mean that there are not still moments when I struggle with PTSD or not being in control.

Even though I was unaware of it at the time all of this was part of my mental well-being.

Mental Health is important to how we deal with and process life situations
Mental Health is important to how we deal with and process life situations

Mental wellness is classified as “a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.”  Wikipedia added the following to the definition, “the absence of mental illness.”

According to the Mental Health Organization, “mental health includes “subjective well-being, perceived self-efficacy, autonomy, competence, inter-generational dependence, and self-actualization of one’s intellectual and emotional potential, among others.”

Some of the conditions that are recognized as mental illnesses include:

  • Anxiety or Panic Disorders

    Anxiety Disorders is one condition considered a mental disorder
    Anxiety Disorders is one condition considered a mental disorder
  • Mood Disorders such as depression
  • Psychotic disorders such as hallucinations or schizophrenia
  • Eating Disorders such as anorexia, bulimia and binge eating
  • Personality Disorders such as split personality, paranoid personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder
  • Impulse Control disorders
  • Addiction disorders such as drugs and alcohol, shopping, or relationships
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders
  • Obsessive Control Disorders

    How do you calm yourself to have a healthy balance?
    How do you calm yourself to have a healthy balance?

So why is mental health important?   Because as described by the author at Wikipedia, “mental health may include an individual’s ability to enjoy life, and create a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience.”

Do you have a balance between life’s activities and the efforts to mentally process situations life throws your way?

7 Ways to find Caregiving Help without Breaking the Bank

Caregiving can be exhausting and we all need a break.  There is no way a person can be a caregiver 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for 365 days.  If so they will become very isolated and depressed.

But, when you live on a budget, where do you find caregivers to help without breaking the bank?

  1. Siblings—ask your siblings to step up to the plate and help out. Every family is different and
    Don't be afraid to ask for help
    Don’t be afraid to ask for help

    depending on how many siblings you have the chance for a break is greater for some people than for others.

  2. Adult children—if you have adult children {or even grandchildren} ask them to come and help you. Helping provides a greater understanding for what you are dealing with on a daily basis and more support.
  3. Neighbors—if you are friends with your neighbors ask them if they would mind helping.
  4. Friends—ask friends to come and visit and help out.
  5. Church members—ask friends at church if they would be willing to help out
  6. Ask for references—ask your friends and neighbors if they have any suggestions for an experienced caregiver that can help out. Many have been caregivers or are caregivers and may be able to refer someone that has experience and are affordable.
  7. Caregiving agencies—most caregiver agencies will come and sit for a minimum of three hours. Even if you hired someone to come once a week for three hours this will provide a much needed break.

How do you find caregiving help?  Which of these have worked best for you?

What is Emotional Wellness?

Emotional wellness is a part of wellness that previous generations used to “push under the rug”.

Understanding our emotions leads us to emotional wellness
Understanding our emotions leads us to emotional wellness

Often it is difficult to understand why we feel the way we do about something.  This often means we have to dig deep and keep digging to get to the root of an issue or problem.

There are can both positive and negative feelings, but understanding our triggers or why we feel that way helps us to better understand ourselves and needs.

For those struggling to lose weight, longing for a healthy relationship or struggling to get out of debt understanding our triggers can be very beneficial.

Emotional wellness is learning how to deal with our emotions or feelings in a positive light and not to allow situations depress us or sabotage our goals.

What is your greatest struggle with emotional wellness?

 

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