Within the last month, GG* has said goodbye to two of her first cousins. One of these cousins she was very close to. For the last year, all the two of them talked about was turning 90. Their birthdays were only 29 days apart. Sadly, our cousin died four days before her 90th birthday.
Her birthday was a bittersweet day for all of us. We knew she was better off and no longer in pain, but we missed celebrating this monumental milestone with her. When her son asked her what she wanted to do for her birthday, she said one word, “Home.” We knew she was at her eternal home and that was where she wanted to be.
With the loss of both of these cousins, GG said “I’m the oldest now.” What she didn’t verbalize, but hung in the air was the statement “I’m next in line. I’m next.”
Just as our cousin was ready, we know that GG is ready when the time comes. However, verbalizing this to ourselves isn’t easy. The biggest lesson I’ve learned in caregiving, is you can’t sweep things under the carpet. It’s best to deal with the current situation and accept it, instead of living in denial.
There are days when I am exhausted from caregiving, but I keep reminding myself to love and appreciate this time with GG*. Her statement rings in my ears from time to time, but I chose to be appreciative for this time we’re together.
What are you thankful for as a caregiver?
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