Caregiving Monday: Reader Feedback

Today, I’d like to do something a little different.  I want to hear from you!caregiving2

What are some of your greatest concerns as a caregiver?

What are some of your greatest joys as a caregiver?

In what areas do you need help?

What agencies do you rely on?


Thank you for taking a moment to tell me about your joys and struggles as a caregiver!





Share Your Caregiving Story 

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Creativity Thursday: 9 Ways to Encourage Your Child’s Creativity

Creativity is very subjective to the person seeing, hearing or feeling the art that has been created.  There are plenty of critics along the path to try and derail the creative and bring you down.

However, there is one person that should be your greatest cheerleader.  That person should be your parents.

So what can a parent do to support their child?

  1. Put them in classes—help your child to learn, improve and develop their skills and ability    dance class
  2. Give constructive criticism in a loving way—never put your child down.  Find a loving way to encourage them and offer advice.  One great approach to use is the orea method—start with something positive, mention what needs to be improved, end with something positive.
  3. Find a mentor—help your child find a mentor to encourage them, guide them and help them continue to develop their skills
  4. Set up their own space to work—set up a special place just for this child to create
  5. Give time each day {or week} to work on their craft—allow time each day {or week if you can’t each day} to allow your child to work on their art.  Even if it is just for thirty minutes or an hour each day, you will be able to determine the interest and dedication your child has towards his/her craft.
  6. Help them find a critique group—a critique group helps you to grow and improve your craft      unconditional love
  7. Love them unconditionally—love your child unconditionally for who s/he is and support their dreams.  Even when being realistic about a job and employment, you can support your child’s dreams in their spare time.
  8. Give emotional support—give your child emotional support.  Sometimes that is a listening ear, a hug or even bragging to others about your child’s abilities and interest.
  9. Set limits on how long you will support them financially—this is mainly for adult children, dependent on their parents and longing to pursue a career in their area of interest.  Regardless of being an actress, writer or dancer, let them know up front at the beginning what {if any} support you can offer and the cutoff date.  This way the child knows to either find work in that field or a job to tie them over in the meantime.

What have you done to support your child?



9 Ways to Encourage Your Child’s Creativity

90 years

Caregiving Monday: A Rite of Passage

90Friday is a very big day in our family.  GG* will turn 90.  This a huge rite of passage and milestone.

GG has been looking forward to this moment for the past year.  The day after she turned 89, she would tell people “I’ll be 90 in 364 days.” From that time on she has been counting down.

GG is slowing down and I don’t know how many more years she will be with us, but we are going to honor and celebrate this milestone with her while we have the opportunity.  We have a number of events included and surprises for her on this special day.

I’ve discovered that the older an individual becomes, the greater the bragging rights.  As senior adults grow closer to 90 and even 100, the greater the bragging rights they have.  I’ve even sat among a room of senior ladies, who do their best to outbid one another in their age.

“Well, I’m 89 years old and 6 months.”

“I’m 89 and 10 ½ months.”90 years

“I’m 91 years old.”

“I’m 94 years old and 9 months.”

“Well, I’ll be 100 in three days.”

This is just some of the conversation you hear among these senior adults.  I find it very sweet and heartwarming to see how proud they are of their age and the wisdom these individuals extol on the younger population.

Just as turning 16, 21, 25, and 40 were rites of passages for many of us in our younger days, each birthday becomes a rite of passage and bragging rites as you grow older.

What birthday was a rite of passage for you or a loved one?

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The Rite of Passage for Senior Adults

Bragging Rights for Senior Adults 

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Transitional Friday: Ecclesiastes 3: 11-14, The Fear of the Lord

For the past two weeks we have been discussing God’s time and that there is a season for everything.

He has made everything beautiful in its time—think about how flowers are planted and in their own time become beautiful.  The same can be said for circumstances in our lives.    fear of Lord

He has also set eternity in the human heart—God wired us to long for eternity and to want the blessings only eternity can bring.  God made us for himself and we are emotionally wired to long for him.

yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end—we cannot begin to imagine the greatness of God and all that He has done and All that He will do.  He tells us that “my ways are not your ways.” We will never understand this until we are with Him and He reveals it to us.
 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy—God wants us to be happy.  when life is difficult this can be hard, but even in the most difficult times He wants us to be happy.

and to do good while they live—God wants us to do good while we are on this earth, this includes helping others.
 That each of them may eat and drink—we should eat and drink, but not in excess.  This is often a challenge.

and find satisfaction in all their toil—God wants us to find satisfaction in our hearts and our journey, even when we’re not at a place where we want to be.  Personally, this is something I’ve struggled with and have to continually pray from God

this is the gift of God—everything, even our hardships, are a gift from God
 I know that everything God does will endure forever—what God gives us and the lessons He teaches us through the good times, as well as through the hardships {more often through the hardships} will last forever.

nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it—God set the plan of life and no matter how hard we try, we cannot change or alter that plan.

God does it so that people will fear him—God wants us to fear Him.  We are told that  “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” {Psalm 111:10}.  Once we begin to trust God’s wisdom, then we can begin to fear Him.

Do you fear the Lord?



The Fear of the Lord 

tough teachers

Creative Thursday: Saying Thank You

I had several piano teachers as a child and young person.  I learned something from each of these teachers.

tough teachers              By far the hardest teacher was the one I had in high school.  She was extremely tough on me and even difficult at times.  We often disagreed.  Our biggest obstacle was I wanted to play other styles than just classical and she refused.  Even a hymn would have been nice, but she was resistant to anything but classical music.  This led me to become greatly discouraged and not practiced what she assigned as much as I should.  I’d rather play what appealed to me.

The punishment for not practicing and being as polished as she preferred was to receive a smack on the knuckles.  {I don’t recommend this.}  However, because she pushed me, I was able to receive a partial scholarship the first time I went to college.

Once I became a teacher and had my own roll of students, I was able to better understand where this former teacher of mine was coming from.  I was greatly discouraged when students did not practice or seem to care.  Believe me, a teacher can tell!  thank you

I had a greater appreciation for this woman and the discipline she instilled in me.  Ironically, today I greatly enjoy playing classical pieces; although that is not the only style I play.

A few years ago, I decided to say thank you to this woman.  I wasn’t sure if she’d even remember me, but I wrote her a thank you note telling her how much I appreciated her and all that she taught me.  I never received a reply, but felt considerably better just knowing that I had said thank you.

What teacher’s do you need to thank?



Saying Thank You to Our Teachers 


Caregiving Monday: The Longest Day

longest dayJune 21st, is the longest day of the year.  It is also the day that the Alzheimer’s association brings light to this devastating disease.

Their slogan is “Grab your friends.  Do what you love.  Honor those facing Alzheimer’s.”

In essence, they ask that you take this one day, form a team, do something that you love and raise money for Alzheimer’s from sunrise to sunset.

The longest day is this coming Saturday.  One of GG doctors brought this to my attention.  He will be participating in a sport’s camp that day.

Other suggestions are dance, rock climb, hike, cook, swim, craft, music, walk, paint, cycle, garden, card games, theatre, rollerblade,  golf, or combine multiple activities together.  This is an opportunity to put on your creative thinking cap and come up with something you love to do to support this cause.alz

A few facts according to Alzheimer’s organization:

  • Every 67 seconds someone in the United States develops Alzheimer’s
  • 1 in 3 seniors die with Alzheimer’s or a form of dementia
  • More than 5 million American’s are living with the disease
  • Alzheimer’s is the 6th leading cause of death in the US
  • In 2013, more than 15.5 million caregivers provided unpaid care hours
  • Almost 2/3 of those with Alzheimer’s are women
  • More than 60% of Alzheimer’s/dementia caregivers are women

What will you do to remember those suffering from Alzheimer’s on Saturday?




The Longest Day, raising Alzheimer’s Awareness