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Cherishing the Moments

There are times when I get tired of being a caregiver, but I remind myself to cherish the moments.  The day will arrive when I will no longer have my loved one.

Cheirsh the time you have together
Cheirsh the time you have together

So what are some ways to cherish the moments:

Listen to what they have to say

  • Discuss their lives—this is difficult as they have less to say; but often we listen to descriptions of the book my grandmother is reading
  • Listen to memories and family stories
  • Put away devices—my grandmother doesn’t understand the computer and iPhone. While we can’t put them away completely; we do try to designate time without them each day/visit
  • Enjoy the time together—for us this often involves just taking a ride or sitting quietly
  • Celebrate Christmas—I have a friend whose has a parent that was only given a few months to live. Knowing the parent would not make it to Christmas, they celebrated early.  {This could also work for other special events or holidays}

How do you cherish the moments?

The WellnessLife

Welcome to the Wellness Life

Welcome to The Wellness Life.  This is a new series I am excited to begin on Tuesday’s.

Eight years ago, I was in the middle of an abusive situation.  I had been completely stripped down from the self-confident woman I’d been years earlier to an emotional and physical wreck.

In January 2009, I returned to my family and began the process of rebuilding my life.  This was a long process and in some areas I still have many miles to go.

That is why living a life of Wellness is so important to me.  Not just in one area of our lives, but in all areas of our lives.  Often you will see six or seven areas of life wellness, but while thinking about it I came up with 12 different areas for us to focus on.

I have some of these areas in which I’ve made much progress, but many others in which I have struggled, stumbled and failed more than I’ve succeeded.  However, I refuse to give up believing that one day with God’s help I will reach that area of wellness.

So what are those areas in The Wellness Life:

  1. Physical

    The WellnessLife
    We all need a life of wellness
  2. Emotional
  3. Mental
  4. Spiritual
  5. Financial
  6. Creative
  7. Social
  8. Relationships
  9. Intellectual
  10. Occupational
  11. Environmental
  12. Rest and Relaxation

Over the coming weeks we will take an in-depth look and definition of each of these areas for a life of wellness.

Where do you struggle the most in your wellness life?

Pause, Praise, Pray

Pause, Praise and Pray

“I go to work to get away.”  A lady in the support group I lead admitted rather sheepishly.

Take time to Pause, Praise and Pray
Take time to Pause, Praise and Pray

Caring for a loved one is very tiring and trying.  A loved one with Alzheimer’s, that needs constant supervision, is even more of a trial.

Caregiving cannot be a lone support.  Don’t be afraid to admit you need help and to ask for it.

We all need a break.  Whether it’s to work, to go shopping, to do something special for ourselves or be pampered.  Don’t be afraid to get away.

No one can go 24/7 without becoming exhausted, depressed and eventually physically ill.

I enjoy reading the blog Living in the Shadows of Alzheimer’s.  While documenting her life with her husband that has Alzheimer’s, Sherri often reminds herself {and her readers} to take time to Pause, Praise and Pray.

How do you take time to pause, praise and pray?