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We All Need Someone to Listen

Caregiving can be very trying at times and we all need someone to listen.

We all need a listening ear
We all need a listening ear

We all need someone with whom we can share both our frustrations and the funny moments.

Now that my grandmother is living with Mama, we discover the need to share and vent has become even more important.

At least once a week, I’ll receive a text or call from Mama to share her conversations.

Two of these sound something like the following:

“It’s 6:30 and she’s pulled the shade down.  Never mind that it’s still light outside.”

“Mama had a frosty for lunch.  I said, “I guess you don’t want any ice cream since you had a frosty” tonight.  She said “I can eat a little.  The frosty was for lunch.”

Sometimes it’s the small things we need to share.  That’s okay.

Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone?

Who listens to you?

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Caregiving Monday: When a parent moves in

Recently we moved my grandmother in with Mama.  This is a learning process for everyone involved.

The time has come for a transition in the life of our elderly loved one
The time has come for a transition in the life of our elderly loved one

Finding time alone is even more difficult.  Even if Mama goes back to her bedroom, my grandmother will come to check on her if she’s back there for more than a few moments.

Trying to explain that she needs time to herself goes unheeded. So what do you do when a parent moves in?

However, there are ways in which we can receive help.

  • When I’m in town I’ll take my grandmother off on errands or to ride through the countryside for a while
  • Mama and I will run errands together, which gives us time to talk and share
  • I’ll stay with my grandmother, so Mama can run errands
  • We ask friends {from time to time} for help
  • We hired someone to take her to church and doctor appointments {this also helps Mama so she does not have to take more time off work}

How have you dealt with a parent moving in with you?