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Creativity Thursday: 7 Ways to Recover from a Bad Review

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The song has been written, the portrait painted or the book written, but none of these are well received.

The critics are harsh, your fans are not impressed and nothing is selling.

So what do we do?

  1. We cry—allow yourself the opportunity to mourn for the project
  2. We gather feedback—at times critics can be harsh, but are there tips that you can use in that critic.  How about the feedback from your fans?  What are they saying?bad
  3. We re-evaluate—we take the information from our critics and fans and re-evaluate that information.  What parts of this is valid?
  4. We are brutally honest with ourselves—this is difficult to be so brutally honest with ourselves about our “baby”.   Why did this not work?  Was this a pet project?  Was this a process that was cathartic or helped through grief?  Was this a project just for us?
  5. We revamp—is this something we want to improve?  Does the book or song need rewriting? Is there one particular area that needs the most work?
  6. We move on—sometimes the best thing is to move on to another project and put our failure on the backburner.   Later on we can decide if we want to revisit it.
  7. We learn from the process—life and art is a learning experience.  Not everything is going to be a hit!  In the beginning of our careers, especially, there is a steep learning curve.  What can we learn?  How can this process help us to be a better individual and a better artists?


How do you recover from a bad review?


Caregiving Monday: Why We Don’t Like to Be Reminded of Our Own Mortality

GG* has only one first cousin left on her mother’s side of the family.  Recently, another first cousin passed away.   GG’s  first reaction was “I’m the oldest now.” death

She said this with a badge of honor, that she was the oldest of the cousins.  However, there was also the unstated statement of “I’m next in line.”

Although she did not verbalize this statement, it was obvious this statement was on her mind.

The older senior adults become, the more aware they seem to become of their own mortality.  Some are more than ready to pass over when the time comes, while others are scared of fighting over.

I’ve discovered that many adults that have a personal relationship with Jesus are prepared for death, while those that do not have a relationship are scared.

However, there are also other factors that play into this feeling and belief.  For each person that feeling and belief is different.

What is important is to have an understanding of your senior adults feelings towards growing older and their own mortality.  Don’t be scared to ask why they have this feeling!

What issues have you dealt with?


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Transitional Friday: When Divorce Strikes

divorce Most people do not enter marriage thinking, “one day we will divorce.”

However, over the last three decades the divorce rate has continued to grow to include over half of the population.

I’d like to believe that most people enter marriage thinking “this is the man or woman I plan to spend the rest of my life with.”

There are a variety of reasons why marriages do not work out, but irreconcilable differences and finances are two of the most common reasons provided.

Divorce isn’t easy.  When a couple decides to divorce, this means the end of their hopes, plans and dreams together as a couple.

If you are going through a divorce or know someone going through one, a few things to keep in mind are:

1. This is a transition that takes time and adjustment.divorce 2

2. Pray and seek God’s will for your life.  Where is He leading you and what is He saying about these changes?

3. Time heals all wounds

4. Healing takes time–we all heal at different rates.  There is no set answer for how long healing can and should take.  The important thing to remember is to allow yourself this time to heal.

5. Do not rush–you can’t rush the healing.  Give yourself the necessary time you need.

6. Focus on yourself–this means to focus on figuring out who you are, your new goals and plans, seek God’s will for the next step and review your dreams.

7. Do not rush into a new relationship–give yourself time to recover from the previous relationship before rushing into a new one.  Most counselors suggest a year, but take longer if you need it.

8. Don’t be afraid to dream–what dreams do you have that were not achievable in the past relationship?  Are they achievable now?  What steps do you need to achieve them?divorce decree

9. Healing is a process–healing takes time and is not a step that can be rushed.  Give yourself the time to work through the steps of healing that are necessary.

10. Do not be afraid to seek help–do not be afraid to seek professional help from a counselor.

11. Join a support group–groups such as Divorce Care and Celebrate Recovery are wonderful resources for working through this difficult and challenging time in life.

12. Nothing is impossible with God–whether you’re rebuilding your life from scratch, seeking reconciliation, or pursuing new dreams, nothing is impossible with God.   Share your heart with Him, seek His path for your life and be willing to follow His lead.  He’ll never lead you wrong.

13. Be careful what you share and who you share it with.  It is easy to share our hurts with everyone but this can later come back to do us more harm than good.   Remember the old saying, the less said the less to take back.

14. Not everyone will understand–to the outside world you may have been the perfect couple.  Also, if a person hasn’t been divorced they may not understand.  divorce 3

15. Don’t allow your emotions to guide you–divorce is an emotional time and it is easy to act accordingly.  Take time to stop, think and pray about a situation before reacting.

16. There is hope–things will eventually get better.   The key is giving them time and waiting out the storm that is passing by.

17. Find a way to communicate–if children are involved, you will continue to have some part in one another’s lives.  Finding a way to communicate and tolerate one another for special events is important for the family.

18.  Don’t put other’s in the middle–don’t get anyone involved in the middle of your affairs.  This only leads to more trouble later on.

19. Don’t force friends to choose sides–if people  are friends with both the husband and wife, this is difficult on them as well.  Do not put them in the middle or force them to choose. divorce 2

20. Friends will be weeded out during this time.  True friends will reveal themselves.

21. Forgiveness is essential for my health.   Forgiveness isn’t easy and takes time, but it is better for me all the way around than being angry.

22. Remember Proverbs 15:1: “A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.”

What lessons have you learned from going through a divorce?


Creativity Thursday: 9 Ways to Survive as a Starving Artists





Some people may enjoy being a starving artists, but most people don’t.

Talent and a dream is a great motivator, but there are times when it’s not enough.  Even some of the great artists of our day struggled for years before being discovered or reaching the pinnacle of their success.

In the meantime, the rent must be paid and food must be put on the table.

So what are some ways to provide for oneself while reaching that dream?

  1. Ask yourself is this a legitimate dream that can be reached? Are you being realistic?
  2. Do you have the drive and determination to reach the dream through all of the negativity or criticism?Starving Artists
  3. Find a job that is flexible with your dreams
  4. Do you need additional training, education or mentoring?
  5. How can you continue to polish your skills and talent?
  6. How can you use your talent to help others in your area?  Can you play for a nursing home or church?  Teach art at a local school?  Direct community theatre?  Write for your church?
  7. Find a group of other starving artists—you’ll be amazed at what you can learn from one another, provide a critique and offer encouragement to one another.
  8. Do you have other skills and talents to lean on?  How can you use these to gain experience and bring in extra income?
  9. Step out of the box—find innovative ways that are out of the box and out of your comfort zone to let others notice your gift and talent.

What other ways have you moved from starving artists to professional artists?