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Transitional Friday: Why Doesn’t God Answer My Prayer

God hearsFor years I waited, longing and struggling to change and improve my circumstances and situation.  After leaving an abusive relationship, the journey to heal and recover took years.

I wondered if I would ever find the person I’d lost along the path.

I longed to be able to stand on my own two feet and to find a way to do this, but nothing seemed to be working.

I wondered if God heard my cries and prayers!  Had He forsaken me!  Would my circumstances ever improve?

Don’t get me wrong, my circumstances weren’t awful and were a whole lot better than they had been in the abusive relationship.  I just wanted more to my life.  There are still things, such as a family, that only God knows if and when that prayer will be answered.

God reminded me:God answers

  1. His reasons are often beyond are grasp
  2. He hears all of our prayers, cries, and tears
  3. His way is better than my way
  4. He is preparing me for a future that only He knows
  5. His timing is not my timing
  6. Sometimes His answer is no or not right now
  7. It’s not all about me.  There are times we are where we are to help someone else.  One example is being a caregiver.

What have you learned in the wait?

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Caregiver Monday: Warning Signs of Burnout for Caregivers

Caregivers often get burned out.  We are often caring around the clock for ourselves and {at least} one other individual.  Some signs of burnout are:

  • Excessive stress and tension

    Do You Struggle with Caregiver Burnout?
    Do You Struggle with Caregiver Burnout?
  • Debilitating depression
  • Persistent anxiety, anger, or guilt
  • Extreme irritability or anger with the patient
  • Decreased overall life satisfaction
  • Relationship conflicts and social isolation
  • Lower immunity and greater need for healthcare services
  • Excessive use of medications, drugs, or alcohol
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Mood swings
  • Loneliness
  • Exhaustion

 

Physical warning signs of burnout:headache

  • Stooped posture
  • Sweaty palms
  • Tension headaches
  • Neck pain
  • Chronic back pain
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Weight gain or loss
  • Problems with sleep

Behavioral warning signs of burnout:

  • Overreacting
  • Acting on impulseburnout
  • Using alcohol or drugs
  • Withdrawing from relationships
  • Changing jobs often
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Transitional Friday: 7 Lessons Learned from Discouragement

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There have been times when I wondered if anything was going my way.

No matter how hard I tried or how much effort I put into the endeavor nothing seemed to work.

This led to great disappointment and discouragement.  There were days when depression hit and I nothing could lift my mood.

When discouraged, I have to remind myself that:discouragement quote

  1. This too shall pass
  2. God is preparing me for something better
  3. God has a better plan
  4. There is a reason for this
  5. I need to spend more time in God’s word and in prayer seeking His will
  6. I need to work off the depression
  7. My circumstances don’t identify me as a person

What has discouragement taught you?

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Caregiver Monday: What to Look For When Hiring a Caregiver

You can hire caregivers from an agency or on a freelance basis.  Different individuals have different preferences.  Personally, I prefer the freelance basis.  That way if I don’t feel an assignment is a good fit, I have the choice to say no thank you and walk away.

Other people swear by hiring someone from an agency.  You have to decide what you prefer.

Choose a Caregiver that meets your needs
Choose a Caregiver that meets your needs

There are pros and cons to either choice.  Research your options to find the solution that will best fit your circumstances.

With an agency, caregivers are:

  • Licensed
  • Bonded
  • Insured
  • Often have workman’s compensation coverage

 

My best piece of advice is to interview the caregiver and make sure the individual is a good fit with you {you will essentially be the one in charge}, the person being cared for and the overall situation.

When you interview a prospective caregiver make sure you:

Make sure the caregiver’s physical abilities match your needs

Define the duties and expectations of the job

Feel comfortable with that person and leaving the senior adult with this person

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Transitional Friday: 10 Lessons I learned from Job Searching

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Even before unemployment kicked in, I spent two years searching for a position.

Searching for a job is very overwhelming and frustrating.

What I learned is:got work

  1. There are so many options it is overwhelming
  2. There are times when there seems to be no options to choose from
  3. Narrowing down a job position is essential
  4. Although I want to rush the process, the company has other concerns that can slow things
  5. Networking is essential
  6. Persistence pays off
  7. I must have confidence in myself and my abilities
  8. Seek help from anyone and everyone possible—the least they can say is no
  9. In time the right fit will come along
  10. God is in control and has a plan

What lessons have you learned?

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Caregiving Monday: Personalities are Magnified in a Caregiving Situation

There are a number of personalities and every person is different.  Likewise every caregiving situation is different in some ways from all others.

Each person brings their own personality to the dynamics
Each person brings their own personality to the dynamics

 

 

 

One of the different things to keep in mind is the different ways the various personalities relate with one another.

In the case for my grandmother, she is very passive and we often wish she would be more vocal about her needs and wants.  My mom is the peace maker and calm one.  She keeps the peace.  I’m the passionate one.  I’m very protective and vocal when I notice an injustice or disservice towards my grandmother.

With the lady I sit with, there are three primary caretakers.  The three of us are very different and diverse in our personalities, interest and attitudes.  However, the three of us balance one another out.  One characteristic that is a weakness to one person may be a strength to another.

When dealing with the loved one you’re caring for, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, mixture of personalitiesfriends or other people assisting with the care of your loved one, then you have to find the balance that works best for you.  The one thing you want is to keep the environment calm and safe for your loved one.

Often I hear stories of the person receiving care being the volatile person.  This makes the situation a lot more different.  When I was caring for my ex-husband’s grandfather, there were times when he was never happy no matter what was tried.  On more than one occasion I had the plate of spaghetti I fixed for his dinner thrown at the wall because he wanted to be contrary.  This is difficult to deal with on a constant basis.  Again the mix of personalities will dictate the best way to deal with this situation.  All I can say is pray hard, remain calm, allow space if possible and seek help when necessary.

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Transitional Friday: 10 Lessons I Learned from Unemployment

unemployment line      For ten months I was unemployed, following the death of my boss.

Even before my job ended, I faced a cut in hours.

Unemployment is frustrating due to the financial instability and uncertainty.  There are moments when hopes are raised only to be dashed and other moments when life and circumstances seem hopeless.

As we’ve discussed in the past, for everything there is a season.  However, it is difficult to see over the horizon at times.

What I learned from unemployment:unemployment

  1. This is a learning and growth opportunity
  2. You will be tested and tried
  3. For every job, there are numerous others also applying for them
  4. Sometimes we have to be patient for God to orchestrate the necessary events for the job He has for us
  5. God may want me to go in a new direction
  6. This is an opportunity to pursue my creative dreams
  7. This is a great time to volunteer
  8. Networking is essential
  9. This is a great time to dig deep, discover who I am meant to be and God’s will for my life
  10. God will always provide for basic needs, but not our wants

What have you learned from unemployment?