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Caregiving Monday: 10 Things to Never Say to an Alzheimer’s Patient

Having a conversation with an Alzheimer’s Patient can be very frustrating at times.  Often they do not have the ability to carry on a conversation, do not remember what you are discussing or cannot find the proper word they are searching for.

However, there are some things we should never say to an Alzheimer’s patient.

  1. I know you remember—they honestly don’t remember; instead reminisce with them, you could say “the address was 10” and do not ask me to remembersee if they can finish the address
  2. I know you can do this—allow them to try, but if they can’t then don’t force them
  3. You could just do this if you would try–they want to but are not able
  4. You’re stupid, lazy, dumb, etc.—they honestly have no idea how to do what you ask; that cognitive ability is gone
  5. You’re wrong—even if they are there is no need to stress them out or argue with them
  6. That person is dead—unless specifically asked I never told; instead use therapeutic lies “they are not here right now, etc”
  7. Don’t bring up any subject that might upset or anger them
  8. Why can’t you remember—again reminisce; don’t make them feel bad
  9. Don’t you remember when you used to…; don’t you remember Uncle “so and so”—they don’t;  maybe ask “Was it Uncle Arthur that drowned in the fishing hole?”  and then see if they remember
  10. Well you can do it if you’d only try—sometimes they can do it if they’d try, but often they just don’t have the cognitive ability

What else would you never say to an Alzheimer’s patient?



10 Things to Never Say to an Alzheimer’s Patient


Transitional Friday: Facing Your Fears

We all have fears!  I don’t like heights!

I’ve also overcome some fears, such as flying.

So, how do we face and overcome our fears?fear

  1. Make a list of your fears—make a list of all of your fears.  Which one is the easiest to cross of your list?
  2. Challenge your thoughts and the reason behind it—ask ourselves why this is a fear, what has caused this to be a fear and why you are fearful of this event.
  3. Make a list of steps to overcome this fear—make a list of steps that need to be taken in order to overcome this fear.
  4. Ask yourself what is the worst case scenario—then ask what the worst case scenario is.  With my fear of heights, that would be falling and breaking bones.
  5. Relax and visualize yourself going through the motions of what you are afraid offear2
  6. Revisit past victories—what fears have you overcome in the past?  How did you do this?
  7. Ask your family and friends for encouragement—we all need encouragement to keep moving forward and reach our goals.
  8. Take deep breaths—often deep breathing calms us and helps us to have perspective on the matter at hand.
  9. Face your fear head on—you may want a friend with you to lend emotional support

How do you overcome your fears?


Facing Your Fears in Life Transitions


Creative Thursday: Does Your Environment Effect Your Work?

Where do you work on your creative projects?  Do you find that some areas bring you down?  Is there anything preventing you from your work?

I mainly work at home, but there are times when I discover that I cannot get into the groove.  There are too many other things that distract me.  When that happens, I have to get away in order to accomplish my goals.  At the moment I’m writing this at GG’s house {she has no internet to distract me}.  creativity-300x219

So what can I do so that my environment does not affect my work?

  1. Set a dedicated space to work—whether this is a corner or a room, find an area just for work
  2. Turn off distractions—turn off the television, internet and other distractions.
  3. Use Music—find music that allows me to concentrate and get into the needed mood and groove
  4. Explore other areas—find other places to work such as a coffee shop, library, park, etc.   Often just a change of scenery helps.
  5. Schedule time to work—schedule the time to work on your craft.  Knowing it’s on the schedule and has to be done is a huge help at time.
  6. Decorate—decorate your area to inspire you and your creative medium
  7. Do Not Disturb—Let your family and friends know that you are working during this time and cannot be disturbed.

What have you done to make your environment more attractive for working?



Does Your Environment Affect Your Work?


Caregiving Monday: 10 Ways to Care for the Caregiver

walk              Being a caregiver is very exhausting.  When you add these responsibilities on top of work, children and other responsibilities, it is easy to become overwhelmed.  I’ve discovered it is important to care for yourself, because if not you’re not good in caring for your loved one.

Tips to care for yourself are:

  1. Take a walk or exercisemassage
  2. Read a book
  3. See a movie
  4. Go out to eat with friends
  5. Find a hobby or craft  {such as gardening, etc}
  6. Get a massage or medi/pedi
  7. Join a support group {even if it’s online}
  8. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Implement a support team.
  9. Keep a journal to write in
  10. Eat right and get plenty of sleep

What do you do to care for yourself as a caregiver?


10 Ways to Care for the Caregiver 


Transitional Friday: Thinking Positively Through the Transition

When life gets us down, it is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  The devil pounces on the darkness and insecurities to bring us down.  In order to see the good and move forward, we need to see the positive.

This has often been a personal struggle for me, but each day I work to have a better attitude and move forward.

  1. Write your goalsgoal
  2. Write stepping stones towards your goals—what steps are necessary to reach the goals made.
  3. Reward yourself—find a way to reward ourselves for each small accomplishment we’ve made.  This could be a book or CD, massage, favorite restaurant, etc.
  4. Write positive affirmations and repeat them—I find that writing and repeating positive affirmations helps me to begin to believe them in time.  I heard one speaker {I wish I could remember who at the moment} state that they state these right before bedtime every night.
  5. Reflect on your situation, what brought you here and how far you’ve already come—I find it difficult at times not to dwell on how far I still have to go, but I have to look at how far I’ve come.
  6. Replace negative thoughts—don’t allow the dark places to crowd in and bring me down to where I’m useless.  The positive affirmations really help. prayer
  7. Pray and ask for God’s guidance and peace
  8. Listen to uplifting music and watch heartwarming movies—these lift the mind and help me to change perspective.  I have to remind myself I deserve this also.
  9. Find a peaceful place {ex. Lake, mountains, meadow, etc.} and remind yourself this too shall pass

What do you do to think positively?



Thinking Positively Through the Transition


Creative Thursday: Exploring Your Creative Desires

Do you have ideas that come a mile a minute?  Do you have numerous outlets or interest to try?  Would you like to make a living with your creative desires?

Creative types often deal with all of these questions.

So how do you determine answers to these questions?

  1. Write your ideas outartistic
  2. Try different things
  3. Determine what you can’t do
  4. Determine what you enjoy doing and want to continue to explore
  5. Is this just a hobby and for fun?
  6. Is this something you dream about making a living out?
  7. Can you eat, sleep and breath this creative style
  8. How can your ideas be implemented into your medium of choice?
  9. Are you willing to learn and develop your skills?
  10. Are you willing to take chances and step out of your comfort zone to meet your goals?
  11. Do you have the financial resources to pursue your dream?
  12. Write out your goals and a plan to get from where you currently are to where you want to be.

What other steps would you recommend to explore your creative desires?



Exploring Your Creative Desires

Discovering your creative talents